Apr 26

When it all goes Wrong (Part 1 of 2)

Does someone you know appear to have the perfect life? The chances are that they don't!

Does someone you know appear to have the perfect life? The chances are that they don’t!

The world can be a very tough place to live in.  And when one unpleasant thing happens, others often follow.  If you’re struggling with any of the problems that regularly beset us; chronic stress, debt, bereavement, conflict and discrimination, it can be galling to look at all the people on social media with their perfect lives, doing everything you can’t.

Well, let me give you a reality check.  What you see on social media is rarely the whole picture, and even the experts struggle, fail and pick themselves up again (or sometimes fail to do so).  Let me give you a personal example.

When you meet me on social media, or live at a networking event, I’ll always have a smile on my face.  I’ll always try to make you laugh and help you to feel good.  You’ll think my life is full of fun, and that only good things come my way.

Do you have days when you feel like this? I do. Life can be cruel to everyone.

Do you have days when you feel like this? I do. Life can be cruel to everyone.

What if I told you that I’d suffered two bereavements in the past 6 weeks? What if I told you that my entire healthy lifestyle strategy has gone out of the window, because for a time I was in too much physical and emotional pain to get out of bed, and afterwards I couldn’t pick up the pieces?  That’s part of the truth as well, it’s just the part that you don’t normally see.

It’s not supposed to happen to me.  I’m the professional.  I’m the expert.  I’m the one who’s supposed to have all the answers.  I’m supposed to be the perfect role model, and get it right all the time, so I can inspire everyone else.  Isn’t that why you choose me?

Susannah Alexander

I’m not anyone’s idea of perfection, but I hope that makes me easier to relate to.

Or might you choose me because, like you, I have feet of clay.  I don’t have trite answers for the complexities and tragedies of life, and I don’t even try to present a perfect image designed to be unattainable or make you feel somehow inferior.  I know that feeling, and it’s the last thing I want for anyone I work with.

If losing my way with health goals can happen to me, a professional in the wellness industry, I’m sure it can happen to you, or someone you know.  There’s no shame in it; when life’s tragedies hit, everyone deals with them in the only way they can.  Afterwards, there’s no manual for picking up the pieces.

All this got me thinking; how do you start again when it’s all gone wrong?  You still want to be healthy, but it all seems like far too much effort, you have so many other things to deal with, and you feel guilty or shallow for even thinking about it, yet you’re not happy with where things are.  How do you get yourself unstuck?


How do you pick up the pieces when your world comes crashing down?

I’m not going to give you easy answers, because I don’t want to belittle what you’re going through, and because I don’t have them.  If you’re in a bad place, the last thing you want is some strident voice telling you some variation of, “(Wo)man up; you just have to get on with it”.  But I do have some ideas to get you started.  In the second half of this blog, I’ll be sharing 7 strategies with you.  They’re easy and attainable, and you can pick and choose what suits you best.

In the meantime, if you’re going through a tough patch, please know that you’re not alone, and you don’t have to do this alone.  Help is out there.

Have you had a hard time recently?  Would you like help in reclaiming your health goals in an atmosphere of compassion, kindness and fun?  If so, my wellness break in the Scottish Highlands is perfect for you.  Click here to learn more and get our special introductory offer.


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